Our society is chock full of contradictions. One thing that I particularly can’t stand is the inequality and hypocrisy that women face when it comes to sexuality. Specifically, in the way that it relates to whether they are “wife material” or not. Prime example: “You can’t turn a hoe into a housewife”.
We have all heard this saying at some point in our lives, but have you ever given it’s implications any serious thought? It’s hard for me to understand why there is such a negative stigma placed over women who explore their sexuality. Women are called all sorts of names like whores, sluts, Jezebels, etc. While, their male counterparts are contradictorily labeled as pimps, ladies men, players, and the like. How does that make any sense?
Most men claim that women who sleep around should never be considered for marriage because they would not make acceptable wives. I’m no relationship expert, but I have a hard time believing that the number of people you’ve been with is a direct indicator of your ability to be a good spouse. And I know, there are probably some women who were horrible wives, but I bet there are just as many virgins that got married and turned out to be terrible wives as well.
We shine an unfair and unfavorable spotlight on women but men don’t share any of the same consequences. When is the last time that someone said something about a ladies man making a terrible husband? Realistically, so-called ladies men are seen as desirable people to form a relationship with because of their looks, charm, charisma, sexual ability, and so forth and so on.
I blame society, the media, men, and women alike for perpetuating this stereotype that men should be in touch with their sexual side and experience what they like or dislike while women should stand by and wait until marriage to explore. In my opinion, that is a really dangerous set up. When it comes to sex, men usually try to have as much of it as they can before they decide to settle down with someone for the rest of their lives. They do this in hopes that after they have experienced enough they will know what they like and don’t like so that when they find a partner that fits in the “like” category, they can be satisfied with only that person during their marriage.
On the other hand, women are expected to be delicate flowers that have not been handled by anyone else. To me, that means that she wouldn’t have enough experience to know what she really likes or dislikes because she never had a chance to do any exploration of her own. I think this is a volatile set up because she’ll always have that desire to want to know what else is out there and what things would be like with other people. And if she ever finds herself in a situation that may allow it, she might just act on those desires just to see what she’s missed out on.
Maybe I’m different from everyone else, but I just don’t see the point of judging anyone based on their sexual history. Honestly, these hoes that people speak of would probably make better wives than most other women. Most of the time, these women are prettier, more well-rounded, and more fun to be around than anyone else – which is why so many men are attracted to them in the first place. And since they’ve had interactions with more men they usually have a better grasp of how to be in a relationship because they’ve already learned a few life lessons along the way.
That’s just my opinion though, what are your thoughts on the matters of “wife material”?