One day, long ago, someone decided that it would be a great idea to designate a specific day out of the year to celebrate being in love. I am sure that when the holiday first started, it was probably a really lovely experience. It is now 2014, and the very idea of Valentine’s Day makes me sick.
Let me explain, I am not a vindictive side-piece that has never experienced a real Valentine’s Day. I am not a bitter male that can’t get a date either. I am a married 25 year old and my wife hates v-day just as much as I do (if not more). It’s the idea, that on this one day out of the entire year, we are supposed to put on this show of affection to let someone know how much we love and appreciate them. I get it, take the time to put a little extra effort towards making them feel special. That’s nice, right? Nothing wrong with that…
Valentine’s day is NOT about love anymore.
Not in the way that most people think at least. This day is more about the love of attention. I’m almost willing to bet that users of Facebook will see their timelines overflowing with posts like “Me and the babe are going to go do such and such” or “Look at this picture of all the wonderful things my love got for me”. V-day is less about spending time with the one you love and more about showing and telling everyone how your Valentine is better than theirs.
What’s the point of that? Please fill me in on what happens on the other 364 days of the year in your relationship. Do you ever do nice things or buy gifts for each other simply because you want to and not because the date on the calendar said that you should? Valentine’s day is just another big circus act that usually climaxes with corny marriage proposals or (if you’re lucky) wild romps in the bedroom, or should that be the other way around? Whatever. The point is, I think we could do without the fanfare.
Valentine’s day should just be another day of the week. I know that’s unlikely to happen, so in the very least it should be a reflection of what you’ve been doing all year. Feb 14th should not be the first time that you go out and buy flowers for your woman or take her out to a nice dinner. Feb 14th should not be the first time you put on you sexiest outfit to try and impress your significant other either. Do these things when you feel like it, not simply because of a holiday. I can almost guarantee that the other person will appreciate it a lot more because they’ll know you’re doing it simply because you want to and not just because it’s Valentine’s Day.
But hey, what do I know?