Seriously, if I had to judge solely from what I see on a daily basis, most women don’t have a clue where they actually belong…
THE KITCHEN!
Sorry, I couldn’t help that one, but I’m definitely just kidding. On a more serious note, my real issue is with the fact that there are a lot of women who believe that they are supposed to be their significant other’s biggest cheerleaders and supporters, no matter the circumstances. I believe this quote is partly to blame:
“Behind every great man is an even greater woman.”
Think about it. Most women are conditioned to believe that their hopes and dreams should dim in comparison to a mans. How often do you hear of men quitting their jobs because their woman got a new position that requires them to relocate? What about men choosing to stay at home with their children while the woman continues to further her career? Hardly ever. You are more than likely to see the exact opposite of this fairly often in our society. My wife always asks the question, “When does that leave time for the woman to become great?” How do you get this “greater woman” if she never has the opportunity to pursue her own dreams because she’s constantly changing her plans to accommodate the man’s wishes?In my honest opinion, it shouldn’t be that way. My wife and I have this thing where we compete with each other in EVERY aspect of our marriage. Who can get the best grades, promoted the quickest, beat video games the fastest, get up the stairs the quickest, or even get to the car first! She pushes me forward and I push her forward just the same. Her dreams and goals inspire me to be a better man at the end of the day. I try my absolute best to keep my own stuff from interfering with what she has going on because I understand how hard it can be to do what you love. I support her in her efforts and she supports me in mine. We’re a team of two and we walk together, side by side, while we celebrate in our success.Side by side.
Not her behind me or me behind her. This is how it should be! The bible says that the woman was made from the rib, right? This leads me to believe that a woman’s place is by a man’s side, not behind him. If that was the case then she would have been pulled from a vertebrae or the tailbone or something.Listen, I know this won’t work for everyone, but I believe in equal opportunity relationships. They can be a truly rewarding and fulfilling experience if both partners realize the importance of each person being an individual and having their own success or even joint success. I think it’s just sad when women do away with their own dreams just to follow a guy. But hey, people have to live their own lives, so continue to do whatever you think is right.Just consider this quote before you go:
“If you want to go fast, go alone. If you want to go far, go together”
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What are your thoughts? Is it really that big of a deal or is it okay to put aside your own dreams for someone else?
Unsolicited Truth 
Thank you for your comment. I definitely thankful of the fact that people appreciate my honesty. I just like to write what I feel.
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Darrell you write really interesting posts. Glad to know someone is not afraid of writing how they really feel no matter how controversial it is 🙂
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Military spouses are interesting, their drama all its own. Tell your wife keep pushing and doing her thing. Always reach for her goals and forget the haters.
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Yes, I don't think many people understand exactly what military families go through on a regular basis. I know exactly what that's like because I'm currently serving active duty myself. I think it's definitely important to try and find your “niche” no matter where you are. It makes it a lot easier that your husband actually supports and pushes you to do something. I've seen a lot of women who are just content being a “spouse” and nothing else. My wife has even dealt with other military wives criticizing her because she has dreams of doing more than staying at home. Military life is definitely not for everyone, but you just have to play with the cards you're dealt! Thanks for reading & commenting!
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Very interesting article. Well my life is such a world wind. We are a military family and my life does revolve around hubby and kids. Most people criticize military families, but have to say its not for the weak. Choice of serving your country and sometimes putting your own life on the back burner. But I do have my own voice and he always pushes me to be me. Its funny you said in the kitchen, im a chef its what I went to school for. I love being in the kitchen. With being military depending on where we are finding your voice is hard. The job of your choice, even its availble where your stationed, but Ive gotten good at figuring it. We've always been supportive no matter what each of us is doing. Its hard being a couple without adding all the BS. Im blabbing I will stop. Take care. Love your articles always a good read
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Thank you for reading and commenting. I'm glad you can appreciate my view and I will definitely go check out your post!
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Very interesting view on things. I agree with the side by side role. I would like to share with you a post from my own blog which speaks to the “Roles of women” issue. Believe it or not, there are still pressures and expectations placed on us in this regard and modern women like myself find it absolutely obnoxious : http://www.missjazmania.com/2013/12/cleaning-up-the-kitchen-part-two/
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This is true. Consideration must be given to all decisions so that each person can get the most out of the deal. It's senseless for either person to just give up everything and gain nothing in return. Thank you for reading!
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Great post! I was just talking about this with my boyfriend last night -the relocation thing-and this a good response to that. There are always compromises in relationships for each party, but society does make it seem like women should sacrifice more in favor of the man. I think all decisions should be well thought out before making any decisions since it may affect both parties involved.Especially when it comes to starting everything over from scratch like you do when relocating.
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I definitely understand what you're saying here. The woman can definitely be the bread winner for the household. I think that phenomenon used to be more uncommon but you are absolutely right that societies way of thinking is changing. Thank you for reading and commenting!
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I know very nice and motivated Boss of a Lady (female, Married, two kids) recently moved for a promotion and her husband was willing to relocate with her. From my understanding the opportunity resulted in her having a higher salary than her husband. He was OK with the move and wasn't intimidated by it at all. She is very motivated but at the same time she is very lady like calm easy, going, and motherly.
I think that society is changing from a time where factory or farms required men to work long hours and labor on a physical level. Nowadays a stay at home parent can win the bread typing from a laptop. I think that relationships can hold on to core values of the past but must also remain dynamic to accommodate the career dad and mom
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